Understanding who one is has nothing to do with identity or images of selfhood. Knowing who you are means accepting your wholeness, embracing every aspect of your being, the dark and the light. We discover that we are who we and not who we think we are or who we would like to be. This recognition requires a radical honesty and letting go of fantasies of identity.
Life has a way of revealing to us who we are whether we ask for it or not.
You do not have to be good.
Wild Geese, Mary Oliver
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.